
Now that the Christmas decorations are neatly tucked away and things at home look a little bare, it is time to evaluate your rooms and make sure they are saying to you all that you want to convey to your family and friends. Does your home say "don't touch, you might mess me up" or does it say "come in, have a cup of coffee and stay awhile."
I don't know about you, but I hope the latter is true. Some times we can get so wrapped up in creating a beautiful home, that we forget the "comfort" part of the beauty.
Several years ago I sold furniture in a high end design store. I had a gentleman come in looking for a few chairs. In the course of visiting with him, he shared with me the purpose of the search. His children were getting older and he realized how quickly time was going. He wanted to make sure that in the family room there was enough seating for
every member of the family. You see to him, it was important that every family member have a place to call their own, a place to be when they all gathered as a family to play a game or watch a movie together. He felt that if there was not enough seating the kids would retreat to their rooms and hide away rather than hang out with the family. Now, he knew that hanging in their room was normal teenage behavior, but he was doing his best to create the environment that would draw them in and keep them around a little bit more often.
I never had the opportunity to check back with him to see if his goal was accomplished, but I have always remembered this. I have tried to create a family space where everyone feels at home. Here is a list of a few things that have helped me to do this
1. Make sure there are enough places to sit .
2. Make sure every area has a place to lay a book or set a glass down.
3. Make the main "hangout" area less formal (perhaps feet on the coffee table could be okay here)
4. Keep a basket of throws and blankets close by for snuggling up with
5. Remember, that others live here and it is not all about me. I can be "anal" about a lot of things, but everyone needs to be
comfortable and feel like they belong
6. Learn to relax and just be... (You have heard me say this before) When mom is relaxed, it sets the tone for the entire
household.
I am sure you could add your own ideas to the list (and I would love to hear them). All in all it is just good to remember that home is and should be a refuge from the outside world, where each member feels loved cherished and comfortable.
How this is created is different for everyone. Won't you join me in making our homes such a place?
Happy New Year! May blessings abound for each of you!