Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Dishing it!

This week I am again joining in with Amanda and her Dishing it party
What's a dishing it party? Amanda says this: "Dishing It! is my way of getting bloggers together to chat about a common topic. I'll post a topic today, and ask everyone to link up and hop around Wednesday and Thursday, after the party goes live. I think it will be a fun way for us to get to know other bloggers"

So here are the questions  she asked us to answer.
I feel like I need to give you a bit of  background before you read my answers. I honestly debated about even participating in this weeks' Dishing it because it deals with a sensitive issue to me. I believe in "keeping it real" though so here goes.

~What's the best thing about your mom?
This is a hard question for me to answer since I have a "run away" mom but I can say that one thing I did get  from her and that I loved  about her is the ability to laugh easily and to laugh with abandon.

~If your mom isn't around, do you have a family member or mentor who can stand in for her? 
 Since my mom was not always around, I am so thankful that the Lord blessed me with godly women who were always there as "Mom" to me and still are. I treasure these women!
~What's your relationship with your mom like (do you just tolerate each other, or is she your best confidant)?
Hopefully getting better. I think the fact that she is turning 70 this year has her realizing that she has missed a great deal over the years and this coupled with the fact that she has a new great grand baby is causing her to try to make contact and re establish a relationship. One that I will cautiously welcome.
~If there is one quality about your mom that you could emulate, what would it be?
In the ladies who have been mom to me, I have learned to be a mom and to model Godly character in raising our girls. If you can teach them to have a strong faith and to love God and family it will carry them a long way. Shaping and molding them into the likeness of Christ is or should be the ultimate goal.
~What's the best advice your mom has ever given you? 
By her action of leaving (not bitter here, just factual) I believe she taught me that the devastation caused by giving up and walking away from people who love you causes there is such a ripple effect that happens. I think through that I have learned that you just don't give up when things are bad you weather through and work on it. You try not to be all about "you" but do what you can for others.
~Describe the most embarrassing outfit your mom made you wear when you were growing up. (If you have a photo of this, I will give you ten bonus points!)
 When I was about 6 Mom thought she could sew(she couldn't) she made me and my sisters bright orange polyester pantsuits. The problem with that was, that she sewed a one way fabric against the grain so that the leg portion literally made loose fitting "tubes"  around our legs. There we were in church all three of us looking like "the Great Pumpkin".  It was hideous to say the least. I still can't believe we actually wore those in public. Wish I had the pix to show you. It is great for a laugh. : )
~If you're a mom, what's your favorite thing about motherhood? What's the most difficult?
I love the relationship I have with each of my girls  (4 of them 26, 23, & 19 yr old twins) We have so much fun together. I am grateful that in His grace God has allowed me to do this thing called motherhood mostly right!! The greater blessing now is getting a grandchild and realizing that I have had a small part in bringing on the next generation in our family.
There you have it the Dish on me.


  1. Wow, Debbie, isn't God good? You are a redeemed woman, and despite the pain you endured, you are a great mom! I know your daughters treasure you. :)

  2. What a wonderful story, sad but wonderful, I know that God is proud of you and all that you have built with the challenging opportunities He gave you.

    Thanks for sharing.

  3. Wow - thank you so much for sharing your heart. Your words have blessed me and I know they will bless others. Praise God for placing the godly women in your life. Have a blessed week and happy Mother's Day!

  4. Thank you for sharing your story, Debbie! :) I know you had a hard time, but it certainly seems like God used some rough years to make YOU a wonderful mother. I would love to have seen the orange outfits, but the description was good. ;) Thanks for linking up! Have fun "mingling." :)

  5. Your story makes me realize how lucky most of us are! Your daughters are lucky to have you as a Mom and a role model! Happy Mother's Day!

  6. Hi! Stopping by from Amanda's party. You seem to have gained a lot of wisdom from living through your Mother's mistakes-and became a great Mom. Thank you so much for sharing!
    -Mama E

  7. WOW! My friend has a very similar story with her mother. Thankfully she had an amazing father, grandmother and aunt (mom's sister). It is hard for me to imagine walking away form my children (I joke about it but I never, ever could). Thank you for sharing your story.

  8. You have truly become Christlike as you forgive and overcome the pain of your mother leaving. I'm so glad I stopped by and learned from your wisdom. Here's wishing you a great mothers day. I have twins too. Mine are almost 19.

  9. See, I didn't know all of that about you! I am proud of you for finding Godly women to stand in for your Mother! You certainly are a great Mother to your Girls! I pray that your relationship with your Mom heals!

    Have a blessed day dear Deb! Hugs

  10. Thanks for sharing your story from your heart. Be blessed. cindy

  11. I love your post, and it really made me reflect on myself and encouraged me to be there for other women and girls who may not have relationships with their mom. I am glad that you had Godly women to lead you through life. Thanks for dishing it!

  12. You really did keep it real. And thank you for that. Isn't it wonderful that you can take such a painful event and with Godly wisdom turn it around to be a positive and Godly mother.
    Your daughgters are the ones who benefit from your example.

  13. You have such a positive outlook. I love that.

    How awesome that you had Godly women to help guide you through the years.

    You did a great job with this topic considering you didn't have the "ideal" mothe.

  14. What a tough lesson to have learned. I hadn't seen this meme before- good one!

    Stopping by to welcome you to SITS. Hope that you have been enjoying it!

  15. Thank you for this today...your children are lucky to have you..God is good. xoxox

  16. Great dish. Happy Mother's day!

    I came by to welcome you to SITS! We're happy to have you with us!

  17. This is just wonderful!

    Thanks so much for stopping by earlier! I love hearing from you!

    I hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!